I moved out of my dad’s place in June of 2015 when I was 20 years old. So basically a little bit over a year ago… and boy did that change my life.
I’m not really sure if things would be different if I had stayed home, or if I would’ve just taken a different path to get to where I am right now in terms of my state of mind. But I like to think that everything happens for a reason and that I was meant to leave my little nest at that time in order to go through some crazy experiences.
- If you’re not happy, do something about it.
This was definitely one of the greatest lessons that for some reason I was trying to ignore for the longest time. Whether it be a person, a place, or a thing, if something is standing in the way of your happiness move it. It is so easy to complain over and over again about the same thing and let it continue add an amount of negativity to you but it is so much easier to just get rid of it and never have to deal with it again. I am not kidding, you’ll be surprised when you get rid of something that’s been consuming your time or thoughts and realize that now you have so much free time and energy to invest in yourself. Which leads me to…
- The best investment you can make is in yourself.
There are so many things that this can mean, and there are so many ways to get this wrong. To fully understand this lesson I had to learn the difference between investing and just spending. I guess my best example of this was moving out in the first place. Getting your own place, whether with roommates or dolo, is a huge expense. I felt that expense was worth it and it was. This expense turned into an investment when it helped me perform better long-term and in my day-to-day activities. For me, living on my own motivated me to want to do better than I was doing. And still everyday I look for the flaws and try to find a way to change or tweak my lifestyle to better myself and way of life.
- A messy bed is a messy head.
Okay, disclaimer, I got this cute little saying from one of my favorite YouTube personalities, Ana Akana. It was something that everyone always told you growing up and what your parents always tried to instill in you when you’re a kid, but I honestly never learned the lesson until I moved out. When I originally moved out, I moved into a house where I had a bunch of housemates. The number, age and gender of my housemates varied frequently, but no matter who it was, everything was always a wreck. I mean we’re of a bunch of kids who could judge us, there was no parent there to make us clean anything so we usually didn’t. To be honest with work, school, and friends, no one really made the time to clean. But there were times where one of us would crack, disgusted and furious with ourselves and just go on a cleaning spree across the house. And for a week (or even less) things were different, it was nice to use the kitchen, it was pleasant to study in the living room, and everyone was a little happier. And it was in those times that I realized that living in a mess gave me anxiety and even a little bit of depression. So now it’s become a huge concern of mine, especially moving into this new apartment, to find permanent homes for all of my belongings and keep up with organizing and chores. Knowing where everything is, and keeping things clean, frees your mind and allows you live stress free.